It’s a curious thing, this human experience. We long for growth, for change, for a deeper connection to ourselves and the world around us. Yet, when the moment of transformation arrives, we often find ourselves… stuck. Frozen. That thing you keep avoiding? The conversation you cannot seem to have? The change you know you need to make but somehow never do? That, beloved one, is resistance. And it’s not your enemy. It is a messenger carrying vital information about what lies beneath.
We are taught to fight resistance. To “push through” and “just do it.” But what if that’s the wrong approach entirely? What if, instead of a battle, we saw resistance as a sacred dialogue? A call from the deepest parts of ourselves to pause, to listen, and to understand.
The Wisdom of the Body
I remember when I was writing my first book. The desire was there, a burning fire in my heart. But every time I sat down to write, a wall would go up. My body would tense, my mind would go blank. I’d find any excuse to get up—make tea, do laundry, organize my bookshelf. For months, I was in a state of profound resistance. I berated myself for my lack of discipline, my procrastination. I was at war with myself.
One afternoon, sitting in my garden, watching a bee move from flower to flower, a thought drifted in. What if this isn’t laziness? What if this is a message? So I stopped fighting. I sat with the feeling. I closed my eyes and asked my body: What are you trying to tell me? And the answer came, not in words, but in a wave of feeling—a deep, primal fear of being seen, of being judged, of not being good enough. My resistance wasn’t trying to stop me from writing; it was trying to protect me from a wound I hadn’t even realized was there.
This is the wisdom of the body. Our nervous system, in its infinite intelligence, is wired for survival. When it perceives a threat—real or imagined—it activates a protective response. This can manifest as the classic “fight, flight, or freeze” response. Resistance is often a form of freeze. It’s the body’s way of saying, “Hold on. This doesn’t feel safe.”
The Science of Stuck
From a neuroscience perspective, resistance is a fascinating dance between the prefrontal cortex—the part of our brain responsible for planning and decision-making—and the amygdala, our brain’s ancient fear center. When we contemplate a change that feels threatening, the amygdala sounds the alarm, flooding our system with stress hormones. This can override the rational, goal-oriented thinking of the prefrontal cortex, leaving us feeling paralyzed.
But here’s the beautiful part. We can learn to work with this process. By bringing mindful awareness to our resistance, we can begin to soothe the amygdala’s alarm bells. We can signal to our nervous system that we are safe, that we are not in immediate danger. This is the work of somatic healing—of learning to listen to the language of the body and respond with compassion and care.
The Tao of Resistance
The Tao Te Ching teaches us about the power of water. It does not resist; it flows. When it meets a boulder, it does not try to smash through it. It flows around it, over it, under it. In time, with gentle persistence, it wears the boulder smooth.
“The supreme good is like water, which nourishes all things without trying to. It is content with the low places that people disdain.”
What if we could approach our resistance with the wisdom of water? Instead of seeing it as a boulder in our path, what if we saw it as part of the landscape of our being? What if we could flow with it, around it, learning from its shape and texture? What if we could be content with the “low places” it reveals to us—the fears, the wounds, the unmet needs?
This is not a passive process. It is an active engagement with the truth of who we are. It requires courage, curiosity, and a deep well of self-compassion. It asks us to trade our battle armor for a listening heart.
How to Listen
So how do we begin this dialogue with our resistance? Here are a few gentle invitations:
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Body Scan: Find a quiet place to sit or lie down. Close your eyes and bring your attention to your body. Notice any areas of tension, tightness, or discomfort. Don’t try to change anything. Just notice. Breathe into those sensations. Ask them: What do you have to tell me?
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Journaling: Take out a pen and paper and write a letter to your resistance. Start with “Dear Resistance…” and see what flows. Ask it questions. Express your frustration, your curiosity, your willingness to listen. You might be surprised by the answers that emerge.
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Movement: Sometimes, the body needs to speak in its own language. Put on some music and allow your body to move in whatever way feels right. Shake, stretch, dance, curl up in a ball. Let your body express the feeling of being stuck, and then, perhaps, the feeling of a tiny bit of release.
Remember, dear one, this is a practice. It is a journey, not a destination. There will be days when you feel like you are flowing, and days when you feel like you are hitting a brick wall. And that’s okay. That’s all part of the tricky, beautiful, messy business of being human.
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With infinite love and support on your journey,
Susan
